Early in 2013 I got diagnosed with Asperger syndrom at the age of 35.
It has really change my life aswell as my wife's life. At first we didn't really pay that much attention to it as pretty much all available information about it was regarding children (at 35 I think I'm a bit past being called 'a child'). Fortunately, thanks to my wife, we manage to convince Struer social services that we should have som help. And one of the things that happened was that we got a 'home concilor'. She visits us once a week and we talk about what issues we have had to deal with in the past week.
In the summer of 2013 my home concilor suggested that we went to a seminar with a guy called Christian A. Stewart-Ferrer. He should talk about how to deal with young adults that was trying to make it trough the education system after elementary school. It turned out that he himself has Asperger syndrom and worked as a psychologist in Odense. However, much of his presentation was about what it was like having Asperger syndrom.
It was a freaking eye-opener! So many things suddenly made sense to me. I finally could understand so many things that used to give me trouble.
Well one of the most immediate consequences of having Aspger syndrom is that I'm really, really bad at reading people. So my wife and I have trained ourself in always being very explicit in expressing what we think/feel. Actually I think that many couples can learn from this. It has definitely strengthened our marriage.
But it also means an extreme attention to detail. This is both good and bad. The good part should be pretty obvious; in my work life I'm generally very thorough and often catches many subtle problems. However, I cannot let this attention to detais rest. This mean that if I'm not carefull I can have a tendency to develop stress. Fortunately I have now come to a point where I can detect this feeling of stress fairly early and take action.